The Bible tells fathers to guard against provoking their children to anger because it can lead to their discouragement (Col 3:21). Instead of provoking, the Bible tells fathers to bring their children up in the “discipline and instruction of the Lord” (Eph 6:4). In our sermon today, we will consider 5 Do’s and Don’ts of being a good father who puts these verses into practice.
- Be a hard worker. It doesn’t matter if you sit in an office or spend all day outside, you can help your family by modeling the benefits of hard work. A good father is not lazy but is willing to work hard and sacrifice for the good of his family so that he can provide for the needs of his family.
- Make time for your family. While you have responsibilities outside the home that keep you away, remember that you have responsibilities inside the home that require your presence and attention. You cannot leave it to mom to raise the kids. Sons and daughters need a father who is active in their life.
- Listen to your family. Listening is vitally important because it is one of the clearest indicators of your love and concern. If you do not listen to your family, you indicate to them that you do not care about them. Listening does not mean that you agree with what they have to say, but it does mean that you value what they have to say. Remember, God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason.
- Don’t neglect to discipline your children. Proverbs 13:24 says, “Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.” Your children need guidance and direction. Proper discipline helps mold your children to respect authority. It is loving to discipline and correct your children because you are helping them grow into maturity.
- Model Spiritual Disciplines. Be intentional to teach and model the spiritual disciplines of church connection, Bible reading, and prayer. Do not neglect to bring your family to a local church and teach your family the Bible. Read and pray in their presence and encourage them to do so likewise. Pray for and with your family. Pray for the overall health and wellbeing of your family and for their salvation. If they are Christians, pray that they continue to grow in spiritual maturity.
Do not be discouraged if you are struggling in any of these areas. There is no perfect Father except God the Father. Confess your failures to God and ask Him to help you mature. Also confess to your family and ask them to help you put these 5 areas into practice. God Bless you Fathers!
Sermon originally preached at First Baptist Church of Scott City, MO on June 21, 2015.